Who says I don’t like Structure?

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Does the thought of structure make you shudder? Do thoughts of planning give you sweaty palms? Do you see yourself as a free-spirit who loves to let life organically?

Do you much prefer to wing-it than plan? And on the other side to that, would you like to free up some time by being a bit more efficient?

Then check out this picture of my food cupboard. It’s kinda higgeldy piggeldy and yet it also has an organised beautiful symmetry. Yes I have limited space and I’ve had to cram loads of things in. But there is a loose weave Wiggi logic and sense of order whereby I (mostly) know where everything is. True there is another cupboard with a few more bits above it and yets, I do have to take things out to get at items at the back, but it all runs fairly smoothly bar the odd dropped item and a swear word or two.

Another win-win with Wiggi where I can wing it and zing it is what I do with my laundry when it’s been washed and ready to hang up to dry.

I don’t just pull it out of the basket at random like I used to. No, I lay it all out in piles – underwear, t-shirts, nightwear, and whatever else. That little bit of extra work at the outset saves me loads of time lost in messiness later on.

These are two of my ways of leaning into the win-win of being a free spirit who rebels against tight structures and allowing just enough structure to help things run smoothly.

So these are examples that have worked for me …. now over to you … I’d love to hear what you struggle with around structured efficiency vs winging it – and how you resolve it.

Let us know in the comments area below.

Best wishes, Annie

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Fussing in the name of Fairness

L084050annwig016“Fusspot Annie” – I still remember the sting of being called a Fusspot Annie in my childhood. It is such a demeaning, nasty put-down. I suppose I liked things to be “just so” … and still do.

Drama Queen is another moniker levelled at folks who are seen to make a fuss.

Derogatory terms for people who, perhaps, seem ‘difficult’.

Okay so we all know too much drama isn’t helpful. It can cloud the real issues and ramp up the blood pressure and possibly annoy other people so much that it creates the polar opposite of what we are trying to achieve.

So far, so in alignment with the fuss about being a fusspot.

But hang on … isn’t there another perspective? Isn’t there always?

What if, instead of jumping to a conclusion that a fusspot is simply an attention grabbing narcissistic drama queen (not being gender specific here by the way) … and we see the fusspot as pioneer, as a pioneering leader standing up for people’s rights? As champion for changing what is wrong?

True, it may not always be the case – and sometimes a fusspot is simply a fusspot and a pain in the proverbial butt. And I believe it’s well worth noting that sometimes a fuss truly needs to be made.

And the “fusspot” instead of being derided ought to be championed. Deserves to be heralded as pioneer, leader, standard bearer of what’s fair and what’s right. And in that vein I salute the fusspot with all my heart and with all my might.

Cheers!

 

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Permission to Reminisce, Permission to Grieve …

Memories of Childhood …

L084050annwig016AWDC_Outside_002Memories of Childhood.
Some are good, some are bad.
Some are happy, some are sad.
Something triggers, memory flickers. Reminiscing greets a smile – or grieving for a longer while.

Memories of childhood. Some are good, some are bad.
Some are happy, some are sad.
Grieving for what’s loved and lost – and things it seems you never had ….. Breathe ..

Life happens all around us, all the time. Sometimes we participate fully and enthusiastically and at others it can feels like it happens ‘to us’ whether we like it or not.

Much can be said and has been said about how we benefit from remembering that we cannot control events – what happens, happens, what IS just is. What we can do is consciously decide how we choose to respond to what is.

Refusing to wallow though, does not and should not mean denying our emotions in the moment. It is essential to allow ourselves to feel what we feel. And, to know that what we feel can change in an instant. Emotional ebb and flow.

The cabinet? It was my father’s. It holds precious memories for me of wines and liqueurs, of crystal, of beautiful wood and mirrored interiors, of sparkle, of guests in the house and excitement. Good memories, happy memories to counterbalance those that are ‘bad’, those that are ‘sad’. But it’s time to say goodbye. It’s out of my hands now. Time to let go.

© Annie Wigman

 

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Losses and Gains

L084050annwig016On Friday I lost my phone.

Twas an iphone … it was not insured. I’ve lost my phone, my photos my well, you know how much we keep on our phones these days.

The photos are largely duplicated on my laptop and are somewhere in the icloud ether also I presume.

My reminders to myself and my voice memos etc. are not. I felt a kind of grief on losing that phone that we feel when we get cut off from a person – be it an actual bereavement or a breakdown in friendship or relationship breakup. I was devasted – and so angry with myself. Perhaps the phone fell out of my bag? Perhaps someone dipped their hand in and took it. Who knows? But clearly it was not as securely safeguarded as I would have wished for, could have, should have made sure of.

So I had to buy a new phone. Not an iphone sadly – that will have to wait. But from my loss (emotional as well as financial) I got some gain. A new phone requires new thinking, new learning. The principles of all smartphones may be the same but they all work just slightly differently. The start screens, the way you nagivate. Sometimes simple little things that can, at first, seem baffling. Then the amazing neural pathways in our brains kick in and ‘ahah!’ we try something intuitively and it works. And we’ve increased our comfort zone – can now use familiar iphone and new and unfamiliar Nokia (on Windows to boot!).

Then I also received an unexpected email from the local transport system here in London to say they owed me money! A small amount – £2.40 to be precise. What’s that? Less than $4 apparently. Something about an ‘operational problem’. But it paid for most of my tube fare this morning.

Wins and losses. Losses and gains. Life is like a kaleidoscope. Everything shifts. And resettles. The same yet different. Different the same.

Good morning!

 

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Reconnecting – saying Hello

L084050annwig016Hi!

After a longer than hoped for hiatus, this blog and site is being bit by bit brought back to life.

I’m looking forward to connecting with you again and bring atouch of sensuous magic sparkle, balanced with serene.

The world is waiting for you. Thank you for waiting for me!

I’ll be back …

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